Dr. Karen

About Dr. Karen

Dr. Karen is a successful consultant, a coach and mentor to high value providers and a Certified Hypnotherapist. Contact Dr. Perkins when you are ready for a change. She has successfully empowered thousands of individuals to quickly and easily identify and reframe their previously negative self-image and personal programming, eliminate their fear based barriers, set their beliefs to be in alignment with their own life and truth and clear their path to success. Dr. K has also served in many executive positions in public service and in private corporations, as a Board Member in several organizations. She holds both a Doctorate in Business Administration and an MBA in Project Management. She is a Certified Public Manager, a member of the American Academy of Certified Public Managers, Partners in Business, Who’s Who among Professional Women; and holds a variety of honorary memberships to organizations around the world for whom she has spoken.
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What Men Should Be Doing

There has been a lot of information provided so far for women on dating after 40. But what about the other side of the coin?

What are some of the biggest issues for men dating over 40?
Men don’t think of being attractive as a science. Dating seems mysterious and there’s nothing they can do about it. If your car wasn’t running well, you’d go to a mechanic. But if you are having trouble dating or in relationships, many men just get mad women. They might say, “Women are mean” or “There are no good women.” It’s important to recognize that there’s […]

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Your First Date After Divorce

I’m not sure I’ve ever met anyone who really enjoys first dates. First dates, especially when it pertains to dating after divorce can be awkward, uncomfortable, boring, weird, or just plain awful.

“Do I have food in my teeth?” “Is this guy really interested in anything I’m saying?” “Is he cute? I can’t decide.” “Does she seem a little too bitter about her ex-husband?” “Does he think I’m fat?” “Was he disappointed when he came to the door?” “Does this girl like me?” These are some of the questions going through the minds of men and women on first dates.

If you […]

By | October 9th, 2015|Uncategorized|Comments Off on Your First Date After Divorce

How Dating Changes With Age

Dating throughout young adulthood is an entirely different experience than dating when you’re older.

Anyone dating in their 30s and beyond will tell you how different the landscape is from the dating scene in their 20s. It isn’t just a matter of environmental changes — even though you may live in a different city, hang out with different crowds and use different kinds of technology. There are more fundamental changes that result in a very different dating experience.

Understanding the scope of these dating differences can help you prepare for the dating world when you re-enter it after a period of removal […]

By | October 7th, 2015|Uncategorized|Comments Off on How Dating Changes With Age

It’s Not As Hard As You Think

There could be any number of reasons why you’re back “on the market” after your 40th birthday. But those reasons don’t really matter as much as your desire to find someone.
There’s no need to feel discouraged about your prospects at all. There is no age limit for love. If you use your age to discourage yourself, you are selling yourself short. Your options are anything but limited. Never use your age as a reason to be lonely or not to get out there and date again. If you do your part, there’s every chance you’ll find the love you want, […]

By | October 5th, 2015|Uncategorized|Comments Off on It’s Not As Hard As You Think

Top Ten Lies About Love after 40

Today’s blog will be talking more to women. For those of us over the age of 40 who are still looking for Mr. Right, we often lose track of many important things. And as sad as it seems, there are at least 10 lies that we tell ourselves about dating during this time. Here are the top ten lies I hear the most from people over 40.

All the good men are taken.
Thinking about this statistically, there just has to be good single men available since half the adult population in the U.S. is single. Men get divorced for the same […]

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Freedom From Sorrow – Part 3

So far in this mini-series we have talked about how to come to terms with the physical effects sorrow has on us as well as how to form new habits. Both of these fields are important, but if all you do are those two fields then there is still a risk of being trapped in sorrow. To help avoid this loophole, we must apply the third topic, which is how to get through the hard times. Here are some tips on how to do that.

Put troubling objects away.
For a time, it can be helpful to put the things that […]

By | September 30th, 2015|Uncategorized|Comments Off on Freedom From Sorrow – Part 3

Freedom from Sorrow – Part 2

In our last blog entry we talked about recognizing and acknowledging the effects of regret and sorrow.  Today, I will give you some tips about how to form new habits to help cope with these changes.

Evaluate your social circle.
Consider leaving behind friends who keep you focused on the past. The social environment we live is an essential part of what defines both who we are. It also affects how we incorporate unresolved past experiences into our lives. Spend some time thinking (or maybe writing in your journal) about the people you spend time with and how they make you feel. If […]

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Freedom From Sorrow – Part 1

There is an amazing quote from Dr. Seuss.

“Do not cry because it is over. Smile because it happened.”

Negative events of the past can make it hard to live in the present. Troubling memories can make it hard to sleep or get through the day. There will come a point at which you must let go of the past or it will define your future. And yet, we always carry our pasts with us in the ways we think, talk, and perceive the world. Managing this can feel like a tightrope walk without an end in sight. By taking things step-by-step […]

By | September 25th, 2015|Uncategorized|Comments Off on Freedom From Sorrow – Part 1

How do you say it?

Another key ingredient for emotional power is improving your external communication skills by learning how to be assertive. To truly communicate assertively, you must know the difference between passive, aggressive, and assertive. You must know and recognize the differences between the different responses and expectations of the four animals, and be flexible in the way you communicate with each. But with all four animals, you must be assertive or your message will never be heard.

 

Three Communication Styles

Let’s look at three internal communication styles that directly affect our external communication: Passive, Aggressive, and Assertive.

 

Passive

Passive people tend to question:

“Why does this always […]

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It’s a Win Win situation

In this era of school and workplace shootings, road rage, airport rage, and even supermarket rage, knowing how to resolve conflicts can save a life. Beyond that, conflict resolution skills can improve relationships and deepen understanding.

A system for resolving conflicts used by families and educators around the country is called The Win/Win Guidelines . Based on methods from diplomacy and counseling, these guidelines were initially developed for use in public schools. The results were so good that teachers, parents, and school administrators began using them in their own lives. Now this system is being used internationally.

Here’s how you […]

By | September 21st, 2015|Uncategorized|Comments Off on It’s a Win Win situation